Girls and nails

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only woman in the world who can't successfully paint her nails. When I was growing up, I was the "big-boned" girl who deep down wanted to be feminine but had to pretend to be the sports-minded type, or be the funny one in order to get any sort of attention. I never had the designer clothes, or the lotions and washes from Bath and Body Works, and I'm pretty sure I was the last of my peers to shave my legs. (I still use bar soap to lather my legs...forget about the Skintimate).
I have changed over the years. But one thing hasn't changed; my desire to be more feminine. And I'm always reminded of this when I go to paint my nails. I don't do manicures or pedicures; waste of money in my eyes which is why I do it myself. I only buy the quick drying polishes even though 60-seconds is still apparently too long.
Don't get me wrong, there is a place and time for everything. Most days, I'm in my workout clothes until I finish at the gym, then it's jeans and a casual top. But I've been living in Seoul, South Korea for the last two months and I'm amazed at how dressy everyone is here every single day of the week. However, there are other times I clean up pretty well.
So is being very feminine something we're born with, or is something that can be acquired? Is it cool (in a man's eyes) for women to have coats of many colors? Give me the scoop.

Awe, crap. Gotta touch up my nails now. Friggin' smudged a couple of 'em.